How you can be lazy and successful at the same time? 

Somebody ask this question to me on quora.com : 

It is a good question I always wanted to answer.

A short answer :-

I just want to share my own experience with you, I also used to be a lazy person when I was in my school life. However, I always had a desire to become a very successful person in my life but this laziness always held me back to work upon my dreams. Just because of this trait I became a daydreamer and used to believe that someday everything in my surroundings will work according to me. But nothing happend.

One day I realised that apart of everything I have a quality of writing things. I realised that because my laziness allowed me to think so.

One negative thought in your mind might push you to find out that one positive thought you have, to kick out that one negative thought.

I started writing more about human mind, life and my personal experiences and published them in my blog. After finding out this quality I have, my laziness made me an author of a book and changed my perception towards laziness.

Yes laziness and success can be together only if your purpose is stronger than anything else. Just do not get disappointed because the person who tasted bitter could easily explain the real beauty of sweetness.

Thank you… 

A story and explanation of Perception

​Part I

 Hello friends! It has been a long to write anything about human mind. So today, I have decided to share a wonderful experience of mine with a meaningful explanation.

In this article you will going to take a look of some definitions of perception and a real experience of mine that will surely going to change your perception towards human beings. At the end of the article,you will understand that we cannot tell everything about a person by just watching his/her profession. 


What is your perception towards perception? 

Haha! You must be feeling that whatever we perceive from the outer world is our perception but actually it is not that much easy to explain perception. An explanation of perception is an interesting process to talk about, let us start the journey and takes a look of a real story of perception towards this magical world. 

Definition of perception –

An active process in which we select, organize and interpret sensory inputs to achieve a grasp of our surrounding is known as perception. 

This definition seems so professional, isn’t it? 

Let me make it more clear to you! 

Perception is the process through which we interpret and organize the received information so as to produce conscious experience of object and their relationship. 

– Perception is the meaning added onto our sensations. 

We have different perception towards this beautiful world. Ahh ha! Might be this world is worst for someone. Again it is all about your perception that how you see the world. 

Our different experiences and learning are responsible for our different perception. Suppose, someone is going to ride a bicycle for the first time in his life and while riding that bicycle he got injured by a car. 

What do you think about his perception towards riding bicycle? Is he going to ride it again or not? 

Ask the same question to someone who loves to ride all around. You will get a completely flip answer. Therefore, whatever we are looking around us is not ultimate, might be the exact same thing is completely different someone else.

I have my own personal experience to share with you. This experience is about perception and a great message to an Indian society. 

Yesterday I was going to my college by an auto rickshaw and I was talking to the driver. He was bald and a healthy old man around his sixties. We were talking about the Indian government and about the roadways system of India. He was not that much satisfied by our government. Of course, when you expect something from the nation and you are not getting return of that, you will surely get disappointed from that. (Whatever we expect from something or somebody it doesn’t mean you will get the same thing in return. Therefore, no need to get disappointed from that just make yourself clam and happy by what you have in your life.)

 He was also happy in his life and we talked afterwards. When we covered half of our journey, I was thinking he is just a normal driver like others. We know well about drivers of auto rickshaw and their behaviors as well. (Don’t judge a person by his/her profession

Now, the climax time 😉

“Son, what do you do? “ He asked me. 

“Uncle, I am a student of psychology and an author of a book.” I replied. 

He showed his normal expressions on that. 

“Uncle tell me more about you.” I asked. He did not listen. 

“What do you write? Shayari or poetry” He asked.

“I write stories and articles on facts.” I replied. 

After a while, he started presenting shayari back to back with a deep meaning. I was really astonished and motivated after listening to his wonderful shayari. 

I was very much impressed by his meaningful words. 

After that, he started talking about his personal life. I was listening to him very carefully and waiting for something interesting because the way he was speaking I was sure that he has interested experiences of life to talk about. 

“Son, your age is very crucial to stand up to have perfect knowledge, interaction and for the good education as well.” He started speaking again. “I have seen so many brilliant students in my life and even the students who wasted their entire life by just having fun all the time. So, it is necessary to understand these things you are doing in your life. I am not telling you to stop hanging out with friends; of course, fun is also a part of life. But it is not a life itself.” 

I know one thing that he had experienced everything in his life and that is why he was talking so confidently. 

There was a flow of silence for a while because that time I was interpreting what he just said.

“I have two sons.” He said. 

“ohh.. that’s nice.” I replied with a smile. 

“My first son is a singer and he always got an offer from different places to sing. Even once in a job interview he got selected by his singing talent only” he said these lines with a broad smile over his face. 

“Wow that’s really wonderful” I replied with shock. 

“My second son is an actor, these days he is shooting with Salam Khan for his forthcoming movie. He is playing a role of bodyguard with him. You will watch a person in a movie wearing black dress all the time. He is my son” 

“What the f**k? Did you just said Salam Khan?” I asked with the horrible expression on my face. 

“Yes my dear.” He replied with an attitude. 

The moment he talked about his son I did not believe that I roam around in auto rickshaws and I did never have a chance to have conversation with these wonderful drivers but today when I got, I experienced this! 

Moreover, when we pulled up to a red light, he sang a song with perfect voice rhythm. After he finished I had no words to express my feelings. His voice was his biggest talent I realize it that time. 

“Why are you still driving this rickshaw if you have so much in your life?” I politely asked him. 

“Now you asked me a good question son, I am driving this because this rickshaw gave me everything in my life. No matter how great I am going to be in my life I will never forget the days of my struggle. Because the moment you forget these struggling part of your life you will easily lose your real self-image.” 

“Well said uncle,” I agreed

“Here we go son, we reached to our destination.” He informed me.

Mr. Sachdeva

“Thank you so much uncle! It was pleasure to talk with you.” I thank him with smile, gave his rent, and entered into my college. 

Friends we all have different perception towards this world and I believe after reading this real experience you must understand that whatever we see is not ultimate. I never met a person like this. Even we have these types of people in our country and we are still finding out the talent all over the world. Why won’t we find out talent by talking with each other and change our perception towards a real human being.

 Perception plays vital role in human life. Before you judge someone or something, first make sure that you have complete information about that person or a thing. 

If you really want to change your perception, then starts living in present and always learn from your past. 

Perception is not what you see; it is what you understand after see. 

Written by – Prashant Panwar (Author)

Why does being around people make me depressed more? 

I got this question by someone in quora.com

A short opinion on this topic that why people feel depressed in public and what are the causes and factor responsible for this. Let’s take a look :  

​Social interaction is one of the factors which effects our behaviour. People those who are introvert are facing this problem of getting depressed in public because whether they are afraid of being shamed or had any traumatic event or they are living in their own created universe.


According to evolutionary psychology, it focuses on genetic factors as well as environmental factors contributing to human development. Those who are genetically strong will develop into a stronger human as compared to those who have inherited weak genes. Also the inherited factors would work well only if there is a conducive environment hence the possibility of the good gene individual not making up to the high level is present if the environment is not conducive. Darwin’s theory of evolution involves the study of the genes and environmental mechanism that underlie the universal development of social and cognitive competencies

If you have this problem of getting depressed  in public then don’t worry you are not the only one facing this. There are many reasons behind this but the there is a easiest way to overcome by changing your environment according to your comfort. Gradually, come up with more metal peace and try to interact with others. And if you think that the problem is more complex then take an appointment with a physician. 

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RELATIONSHIPS MATTERS A LOT.

Relationship is the most important aspect of human life. A research shows that without  having relationships we can not get that much great success that we deserve in our life.
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Sometimes we don’t understand the true meaning of having special people in our life but when the time passes away then we realize that  – “I wish I could save my relationship with someone special.”

If you really don’t want to lose your relationships then you have to develop a ability to understand and to bear things according to the situations and  mentality of your  partner.  However , when nothing seems to work in your relation then give a small break to yourself and think what you have done, because relationships are based on the process of understanding, trust and love.  If any stage of these process is negative then my friends beware it can also effect on outcome.
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We are blessed with so many different person in our life but still we choose to stuck in small issues just because of our EGO. Come on friends think before you take any step in your  relationship or you can lose someone special.

What if you don’t have any person in your life ?
What if you don’t get your true love ?
What if you there is no one with you to share your emotions and stories ?
What if you lose every single person from your life?
What if when you are just alone in this great universe ?

My friends life is too short to live and love
It’s your choice either you want to make your life more beautiful by having lovely person in your life or destroy it by loosing everyone just because of your negative and pompous attitude.

RESPECT THIS GREAT BLESSINGS OF GOD.

Thank you
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